‘Rollercoaster’ author and wife turn caregiving and love into a permanent lifestyle choice

I, Woody Weingarten, always have my wife’s back. 

And she, Nancy Fox, always has mine.

To whimsically stretch the metaphoric cliché, we always have each other’s fronts and sides as well.

Much of that’s been chronicled in my new VitalityPress book, “Rollercoaster: How a man can survive his partner’s breast cancer.”

Its focus is caregiving.

For Nancy and me, that’s a lot more than a word — it’s a lifestyle choice, one we insist on making every day.

Sunrise view from hot tub in San Anselmo.

Ever since Nancy’s diagnosis 20 years ago we’ve started every a.m. with a soft kiss, trading the phrase “Good morning, I love you.”

We never add a “too.”

Just an unadorned “Good morning, I love you” in each direction.

At night now and then, we climb into the hot tub and check out the twinkling stars or glowing yellow moon. Those occasions underscore the day’s tendernesses.

We’ve never labeled exactly what we do. But I just thought of something that fits:

Each of us is a love whisperer.